No one likes to be around someone who lacks self-confidence. Also, it is hard to attract success in all aspects of life when you do not believe in yourself. Lack of self-confidence is detrimental to your mental health, social life, and career decisions, to name only a few. If you are not confident, this article will show you how to build self-confidence with ten tips that will work wonders for you.
- WHAT IS SELF-CONFIDENCE AND WHY IT IS IMPORTANT
- A JOURNEY TOWARD A MORE CONFIDENT YOU!
- ADJUSTS YOUR PHYSIOLOGY
- HAVE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS
- IMPROVE YOUR INNER DIALOG
- IMAGINE YOUR CONFIDENT FUTURE SELF
- USE THE POWER OF SUBLIMINAL MESSAGES
- BE THE PUZZLE PIECE OF THE WORLD AROUND YOU
- DEVELOP A GROWTH MINDSET
- LEARN FROM CONFIDENT ROLE MODELS
- ACT YOUR CONFIDENCE
- RECALL THE TIMES OF GLORY AND BE AGAIN THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR SHIP
- FINAL THOUGHTS…
WHAT IS SELF-CONFIDENCE AND WHY IT IS IMPORTANT
Self-confidence is one of the six facets of emotional intelligence and can be described as a correlation between self-belief (ability or judgment) and the expectations of others.
Studies have shown that people with high self-confidence are more persuasive. They are better equipped to pursue their goals and handle challenges in life, such as work deadlines, public speaking skills, or making decisions that require risk-taking.
On the other hand, people with a lack of self-confidence think that they are not good enough, and they are excessively critical of themselves, facts that lead to feelings of inadequacy and shame.
As a result, they have limitations in taking risks or pursuing their goals just for fear of failure. This leads to an unhealthy cycle that pushes them further into the abyss of mistrust.
A JOURNEY TOWARD A MORE CONFIDENT YOU!
Self-confidence is a skill that can be trained, honed, and mastered, and sometimes all you need is just a little push to start.
Increase your self-confidence with our ten tips, and be proud of who you are, no matter what flaws you see in the mirror.
ADJUSTS YOUR PHYSIOLOGY
The mirror is not known for being kind when it is about making people feel good about themselves. It is designed to show you what you look like in all the most unflattering ways possible.
The simple key to producing a powerful state of self-confidence is to make subtle adjustments to your posture.
• Square your shoulders and let them fall down and back.
• Pull your chest up, and keep your spine straight
• Hold your head and look up
• Adjust your facial muscles
• Keep your chin up parallel to the floor
• Let the weight of your body fall towards the ground.
Put a big smile on your face, and you are ready to go.
Give it a try! Put yourself in a confident posture, and you will see how a simple shift in your physiology will make all the difference whenever needed.
HAVE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS
We all know the feeling of having no confidence in ourselves, no matter how successful we are.
That self-confidence seems to leave us at certain moments, maybe when we have an important meeting or presentation, a hot date, a speech to hold, or a confrontation with our boss.
If we have complete confidence in one area of our lives, we may not have it in others. Unfortunately, we are not born with self-confidence, but we have the power to learn to master and have it literally at our fingertips.
Here comes into play for an instant fix NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), which is known as a form of psychotherapy that focuses on modifying thoughts, feelings, and behavior to improve mental health and well-being.
Because of this, many people turn to NLP to help them with their confidence levels.
While studying NLP, I was surprised to see that the well-known stereotype of doing therapy and providing solutions only in the long term is no longer valid, and an instant solution can be available to anyone.
The NLP technique can be the solution for you.
It takes a holistic approach and provides a confidence anchor that could be a simple gesture or object associated with feeling confident.
But it should be something that is always with you, or you can access it whenever you need to feel confident and elevate your performance.
Try now. We will create the confidence anchor based on a simple but powerful gesture. The simplicity of this exercise has fascinated me, and putting it into practice has had a significant impact.
NLP CONFIDENCE ANCHOR
• Close your eyes if you wish to make the experience more vivid.
• Bring into mind a memory of when you felt completely at peace with yourself. Calm, relaxed, satisfied, with no worries or anxiety.
• Lose yourself in that moment, and make it all clear, as if you were back there.
• Intensify the feeling by putting you back inside your body in the memory as you see, hear, and feel through all your senses.
• Give the necessary time to see the whole image with the eyes of the mind, not as a witness but as you live in memory.
• Once you do that, you notice the feeling of being at peace becoming real.
• Breathe calm confidence, and when you are at the peak of that intense feeling, squeeze the tips of your left thumb and index finger together and hold for about 3 seconds. 3…2…1…
• Now, release your finger and thumb, and open your eyes.
You have created an NLP anchor, and you should feel an echo of that peaceful feeling in your body. Being in peace with yourself is confidence, and this can be your secret weapon whenever you need a dose of it.
IMPROVE YOUR INNER DIALOG
We all have an inner dialog as we think about things. It is the voice in our head, the companion that can be our best friend or worst enemy. This voice is also called self-talk and can affect our quality of life.
Negative self-talk is common for people with low self-esteem and confidence, which affects their careers, friendships, relationships, and overall happiness.
But this dialog does not have to be a negative one. You can talk back to the negative thoughts so they do not take over. With self-talk, you can create positive ones about who you are and what you want from life.
To work effectively, these thoughts must align with your values and beliefs.
Because your thoughts influence your beliefs, and your beliefs influence your actions.
Because it is not easy to switch from negative thoughts to positive ones, I will tell you a simple trick that you also can use for controlling anger.
You can use a physical cue, a rubber band, which you wear permanently around your wrist.
Every time an unwanted thought invades your mind, pull on the rubber band and then release it to tap your wrist gently, but to feel that snap.
This simple gesture sends a message to your unconscious mind as an awakening from the negative thought to the present moment.
And now is the best time to replace it with a positive one.
IMAGINE YOUR CONFIDENT FUTURE SELF
Imagination can be a powerful mental trigger in self-development, especially when it is positive and empowering.
Imagining being in the future and being confident about who you are gives you a sense of control and helps you to see your potential when you feel low on confidence.
The more often you imagine your future self as you want to be, the sooner it will become reality.
This mental trigger is used by company employees, athletes, and self-helpers to increase motivation and self-confidence in themselves and others.
Why not use it for yourself?
Now, I want you to imagine…
What would your confident future self say to you right now?
What has happened to make your future self so confident?
How did your future self get there?
Your confident future self is just an idea of what could be possible for you in the future, and maybe the answer is already inside of you.
As a child, you likely dreamed of becoming a princess or superhero. As an adult, you sometimes tell yourself you are not good enough to become who you want to be.
But what if you could imagine your future self and then take it from there?
Imagine that confident and happy future person, then let him inspire and motivate you to do the things that will help you get wherever you want.
USE THE POWER OF SUBLIMINAL MESSAGES
There are many ways to build or improve your self-confidence. Among them are positive affirmations that train your brain and help you encourage yourself with positive thoughts and beliefs.
They boost self-confidence and self-esteem by repeating phrases or words with a positive meaning.
Words have power in your subconscious brain, and when you speak them loud, they start generating vibrations in your mouth and throat area, eventually making their way to the brain where they are stored.
Affirmations usually take the form of I am confident! I can do it! I am beautiful inside and out! Repeated over the long term creates subconscious changes in your mind.
But there is a technique that can make the positive affirmations even more effective, especially in a short amount of time.
I am talking about subliminal messages. They are designed in a way in which the message is processed automatically in the subconscious mind without additional effort on your part.
This makes it easier to change your mindset and give you new perspectives without a conscious effort.
Subliminal messages are typically delivered using audio recordings. They contain phrases spoken at a low volume (or behind the music) and repeated many times.
These covert messages can be played in the night while you sleep, in the background while you work, or in the morning when you wake up to help you start your day with a positive and confident attitude.
BE THE PUZZLE PIECE OF THE WORLD AROUND YOU
It has been proven that social activities build up self-confidence. So, take time out of your day to interact more with other people socially. It will increase your self-confidence and help you realize you are not alone in your insecurities.
There are many social activities that you can partake in, and you should find out which ones you enjoy doing the most and focus on them.
Maybe you like to:
• Take part in cultural events.
• Join a club.
• Participate in group activities with friends or family members.
• Play sports and do physical activities.
• Practice gratitude.
The exercise increases self-confidence and overall well-being by releasing endorphins into the body, making you feel better about who you are.
If you want to make a difference in your life and be part of something bigger than yourself, volunteer.
Volunteering offers many benefits, giving back and building relationships with like-minded individuals.
It is an excellent way to feel like you have made a meaningful contribution to your local area and the world around you.
DEVELOP A GROWTH MINDSET
Self-confidence is a slippery thing to grasp. It can be a fleeting feeling, and it can also be a long-term mindset.
The way you think about your capabilities affects how you do in life. The more you believe that your limitations are carved in stone, the less likely you are to explore opportunities and new ways of thinking.
This is generally the case for people with a fixed mindset, which tends to be more conservative and self-protective.
They believe they have only a set of skills that cannot be changed.
They avoid challenges and new situations that might threaten their sense of being smart or capable. For them, the difficulties are signs of flaws or inadequacy.
In contrast, those with a growth mentality believe their talents, abilities, intelligence, and personality can be developed or changed through education and work experience.
They see challenges as new opportunities for learning, improving, or developing new skills, so they engage in new tasks willingly.
A growth mindset is necessary for all who want to live life with a well-defined purpose and confidence.
Which one are you?
It is time to reconsider your approach to building self-confidence if you are not already in a group of people with a growth mindset.
Keep your mind active! Stretch your skills, learn something new, read self-help books, take online courses on a desired topic, or listen to self-development podcasts.
These are just a few examples. But I am sure you got the idea.
LEARN FROM CONFIDENT ROLE MODELS
Self-confidence can be learned from confident role models, usually people who have had success and feel great about themselves.
You can learn from public speakers, actors, or athletes how they act on stage or act toward reporters during interviews.
But the role models are not limited to celebrities and powerhouses in their fields.
You can find them in people around you: friends, family members, neighbors, or colleagues. Also, they can be the best source of inspiration.
Surround yourself with positive, enthusiastic, confident people because their power is contagious. Allow their confidence and positivism to brush off on you.
Watch them and learn from them. Identify what they do differently in their lives that convey that powerful confidence no matter what they have to deal with.
You do not need to become their copy, but learning from them and seeing what they do well will help you build self-confidence and feel more accomplished in your everyday life.
ACT YOUR CONFIDENCE
“Act the way you would like to be, and soon you will be the way you act!”- Leonard Cohen.
Even the ancient Greeks believed that “acting as if” was a powerful tool that trains the mindset and provides a strong sense of self-confidence.
Actors have to do a lot of things to look confident on-screen. They must know how to speak convincingly and to use their body, facial expressions, and voice.
In the same way, you can use these tricks when you are going through your day-to-day tasks.
The more you practice behaving as if you were confident, the more your brain will be tricked into believing it is true.
You will start feeling a sense of inner confidence that will lead you to do the right things.
People act the way they believe they are. So, if you want to be confident, then act like it.
This does not mean you have to go around pretend-lying about your abilities but work on both feeling and executing confidence.
RECALL THE TIMES OF GLORY AND BE AGAIN THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR SHIP
Self-confidence is the key factor when facing challenges. Make them growth opportunities, not obstacles for failure.
Regain your self-confidence whenever you feel a lack of it, and the best way for this is to recall the times of your glory by reminding yourself of your strengths, skills, and achievements that you have done right in the past.
Reflect on your successes. Remember the power and good feelings you had about them.
This will rekindle all your cylinders because if you had the confidence to succeed once, you find a new one for future endeavors.
Be again the captain of your ship! Know what you want in life and start pursuing it with the full power of self-confidence.
Take responsibility for your actions, take initiative, and make changes in your life as a real captain on the sea.
I have tried to provide simple and efficient tips to help you build and inspire more confidence when you present yourself to the world.
Do you use any of these tips?
Do you have your tricks?
Write your thoughts in a comment below because it can be a source of knowledge and motivation for each of us.
Till next time…
Let Your Confidence Be The Best Outfit That You Can Wear!
Founder of Dare & Be.