Every day, be the best version of yourself! These are the words my father used to say to me, and today, they lead me in my personal and professional life.
WHEN THE PAST PURSUE THE PRESENT
Do you remember that as a teenager, everyone asked what you wanted and liked to do, what school you wanted to attend, or what career?
None of the answers to those questions coincide with your adult transformation. What you liked and wanted to do then has changed with what you do or want now.
The problem is that the moment you become an adult, no one asks you these things anymore. This responsibility has been transferred to you, and often, you are confused or do not know what you want.
Even if you have a vague desire to improve your life, to have a clear overview of where you are heading, you often feel like something is holding you back.
You feel trapped in a loop where you live a monotonous, repetitive life, hoping for a different result.
If there were things you wanted in the past that did not turn into reality, you blocked their way to you in one form or another. The same formula applies at present.
The human body is a generator of emotions, which you need to know and learn to manage to make them an ally who will work for you, and not for you, to be in control of them.
At the moment in which the less pleasant emotions take over you, those shadow behaviors appear resistant to change, which blocks your personal and professional performance and productivity.
That part of your personality is formed, containing all those aspects you do not want to admit you own or live.
That is why I suggest you avoid:
10 THINGS THAT HOLD YOU BACK FROM BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF
THE FAKE PERSONA
Have you ever wondered about the role of how many people you play in different circumstances during a day? Very few people keep their true selves in their homes and society.
Due to the expectations of society and the media, which constantly tell you how you should look, act, and feel and make you question your own opinions, your Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence decrease, making you dependent on the approval of others.
The changes in the outside world influence you; you change your behavior and create fake personas to hide your true Self and please society.
• You wear a smiling mask when, in fact, your soul is crying.
• You use a mask of success and excellence when inside, you devalue and consider yourself incapable.
• You appear as a positive person in the eyes of some when reality pushes you to the precipice.
• You victimize yourself in front of others to get a little attention.
• You wear the mask of happiness when life is a continuous struggle.
• You play the role of empathy when your heart is ice.
• You expose social relationships when, in fact, the darkness of loneliness pushes you into depression and anxiety.
There are so many masks that you have been using for a long time that you do not know who you are anymore.
You have lost your identity, personality, and your voice.
So, give up all the masks and expose your true Self. Recover your Self-Confidence, stand up for your own opinions, and raise your voice so that everyone can hear you.
I KNOW IT ALL!
You are guided by the tendency to believe that you already know everything and that learning new things in different aspects of your life is unnecessary.
You continually repeat what you know by bringing nothing new to your knowledge.
But unfortunately, the result will be the same for you, personally and professionally.
Successful people always read, listen, and never stop learning. You need to feed and expand your mind with new information, rise to a new level in your life, and bring new sparks inside you.
Give up your ego, learn, listen, read books, ask questions, keep getting informed, research, and grow.
THE COMFORT ZONE
It creates a sense of security and relaxation, without stress, that detaches you from what is happening around you.
In reality, it is just an illusion, a barrier imposed by you, over which it isn’t easy to overcome, only not to lose the feeling of the minimal effort you offer. All this does nothing but shadow your potential in developing you.
Life is not just pleasure and comfort; your purpose in this life is not just to be born, to live reactively, and to die.
Do something meaningful for you, with your life. Share a part of your soul, of your time, a part of your knowledge. Do not waste your life. Make your life a meaningful purpose.
Be proactive, understand the status where you are now, know where you want to reach, devise a plan, and make it a reality.
THE SHADOW OF FEAR
Fear acts first on the mental level, creating unrealistic information, which your brain transfers later into an emotional stage.
There are many types of fears, but when it comes to personal and professional development, they appear as fears of failure, success, and making mistakes.
Each time you create your unrealistic scenario:
What if I make mistakes?
What if it does not work?
What if I will lose money?
Many What if negatives, but once you do not ask yourself:
What if this works?
Fear dominates you emotionally, but if you face it, you conquer it. Do not deny or hide it; become aware of it and gradually overcome it.
I love the smell of success in the Shadows of Failures!
SYMPATHY FOR EXCUSES
I do not have time.
I do not have experience.
I do not know how.
You do not want to accept that you seek excuses, justifying yourself for your failures and lack of confidence.
Do you want to make changes?
Do you want to reach your goals?
You can find endless excuses, but why not at least one reason Why you should do all this?
BLAME – SENSE OF CHAOS
I am not talking about blaming yourself. But looking at you, at your failures, your dissatisfaction, you do not want to accept that you are responsible for your life, the only one who sets the directions and path for your destination.
That is why you blame others for your unhappiness. But blaming others takes time and energy from improving yourself.
Whenever you point a finger at a person, another three points at you.
So, stop blaming, take responsibility for your actions, understand the power of change, and do something different.
THE SHADOW OF ENVY
Lack of self-confidence and self-esteem leads you down the path of envy. It dominates you and makes you waste your time and energy, chasing after the goals of others and forgetting about yours.
Do not compare yourself or your actions with those of others. Create your goals, and to progress, surround yourself with those who improve you, not those who imitate you.
You are so focused on being accepted into society that you want to please everyone, to be available for everyone, and it is tough for you to refuse.
But in this case, you do nothing but neglect yourself, living a life for others while losing your own.
If you want to be able to help others first, you need help and love yourself.
CARING WHAT OTHER THINK
If you are that person who is worried about what other people think about you or your actions, then their opinions stop you from doing what is best for you and prevent you from growing as a person.
Do not lower your expectations just to fit into the world. Listen to your intuition, allowing you to make better decisions.
DO IT YOURSELF!
Do you not trust somebody else?
Do you think the work of others is not valuable?
Let me tell you something. You can embrace your life journey alone, fighting the battles, defeating the challenges alone, or walking to the wild unknown alone.
All this will give you strength and courage. You will learn to know and value yourself and to be aware of your weaknesses.
The lonely road is not an easy one and is not for everybody. Can you succeed? The answer is yes. But it will be a very tough road, with many obstacles, which will take time and consume much energy.
On the other hand, the team’s work is more accessible, more successful, and more fun. The teamwork will make your dream work!
So, be wise in choosing your path!
MY FINAL THOUGHTS…
- By avoiding using Fake persona masks, you will become aware of a vision of your person by how you perceive your role in relationships with others.
- Accept the self-improvement through the process of self-love, change, and evolution. Build your self-confidence, take responsibility, and realize your value and how you can positively affect the world around you.
By becoming the best version of yourself, you will become an attraction magnet for others.
I hope you enjoyed the article, and I would love to hear your opinion or your short story about becoming the best version of yourself.
Till next time…
Choose The Best You!
Founder of Dare & Be.