You have probably heard the phrase you attract what you are, but have you ever truly felt the depth of that statement? Your inner world, your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions shape the life you experience. If you want to attract success, love, health, or happiness, it starts with aligning your mindset with your desires.
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WHY IS LIFE NOT GIVING ME WHAT I AM ASKING FOR?
Do you recognize yourself sitting there thinking about not getting what you want, even though you have been trying, wishing, and doing everything you believe should work?
Maybe you want a successful career, wealth, a loving relationship, or happiness, but no matter how much effort you put in, the results do not match your desires.
You attract what you are, not what you desire!
Here is the thing: this statement is true, but not in the way you might think. The idea behind this phrase is simple: the world around us mirrors what is inside us.
It is not just about wishing harder or hoping for better circumstances.
What you attract into your life reflects who you are on a deeper level: your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions.
If you are not careful, you may find that your desires do not match what you offer the world. But there is a way to fix this.
Let me break it down so you can understand how it works and how to attract what you want.
UNDERSTANDING WHAT YOU ARE ATTRACTING
I want to talk about the idea that your life is a mirror. You may not realize it, but the people, situations, and opportunities that cross your life reflect something about who you are at your core.
It does not mean that everything that happens to you is your fault or the direct result of some deep flaw within you.
It simply means that your internal world, mindset, beliefs, how you feel about yourself, and even the stories you tell yourself about who you are have a powerful influence on what you attract into your reality.
THE POWER OF SUBCONSCIOUS BELIEFS
Let me give you an example:
Imagine you are looking for a partner. You have a vision of the kind of person you want to be with, someone who is caring, supportive, and truly understands you.
You go on dates, are open to new connections, and put yourself out there, hoping to meet the right person.
But despite your efforts, you seem to attract people who are either unavailable or not what you are looking for.
Why does this happen?
It is possible that, deep down, there is a belief you have not fully acknowledged yet.
On the surface, you consciously want a loving relationship, but subconsciously, you dread being hurt or rejected.
Maybe you doubt your worth of the kind of love you desire, or deep down, you fear you will never find someone loyal who truly understands you.
These hidden beliefs are powerful. They create an invisible filter through which you experience life.
They can shape the kind of people you attract, the nature of your interactions, and even how you show up in relationships.
Without realizing it, your subconscious might be blocking the very thing you desire most simply because it is holding onto old fears or beliefs that no longer serve you.
It is not about wishing harder for things to change, but about becoming someone who naturally draws those things into your life.
THE HIDDEN DRIVER OF YOUR REALITY
Here is the real question:
If life mirrors who we are, then what is shaping that reflection in the first place?
The answer goes further than you might think. It is not just about your conscious thoughts or what you want. It is about the subconscious patterns running in the background, quietly pulling the strings, often without us even realizing it.
We all have beliefs, fears, and experiences stored in our subconscious, which can either help us or hold us back.
For example:
Say you grew up hearing that money is hard to come by or that people like us do not get lucky breaks.
Consciously, maybe you desire wealth, but your subconscious may send signals that contradict your goal.
If, deep down, you believe you are not worthy of abundance, or if your actions reflect that disbelief, such as constantly settling for less, pushing away growth opportunities, or holding onto a scarcity mindset, then that is what you will attract.
It is like a hidden filter that affects everything you experience.
So, what can you do about it?
The key is becoming aware of those limiting beliefs and taking action to change them.
This is where personal growth comes in.
By doing the work to identify and change those negative beliefs, you can shift your mindset and, as a result, attract better things into your life.
It will not happen overnight, but gradually, you will start to see the difference.
THE PATH TO ALIGNING YOUR DESIRES WITH REALITY
The shift begins when personal growth takes center stage.
Changing your mindset is not just about thinking positive thoughts daily (though that is a part of it).
It is about digging deeper, challenging the beliefs holding you back, and replacing self-doubt with self-belief and fear with courage. Personal growth is not something you can do once and forget about.
It is a continuous process of self-awareness, learning, and evolving to become someone who naturally attracts the desired things without forcing them.
You do not have to push yourself to be someone you are not. Instead, you grow into the person you need to be to live the life you aspire to.
When you start focusing on your personal growth and development by working with a coach, journaling your thoughts, practicing mindfulness, or seeking feedback from others, you uncover the hidden beliefs that might limit your potential.
The more you work on yourself, the more your reality will shift to reflect that change!
ALIGNING YOUR ACTIONS WITH YOUR DESIRES
Mindset alone is not enough. You have to back it up with action.
Here is where most people go wrong. You can think of all the positive thoughts you want, but nothing will change if your actions are not in sync with those thoughts.
If you want to attract success but do not take steps to improve your skills or reach out to the right people, your desires will stay just that: desires.
Your actions need to reflect the kind of person you want to be.
If you want a healthier lifestyle, start making choices today that reflect that desire: exercise, eat better, and prioritize your health.
If you want financial freedom, start educating yourself, managing your debts responsibly, budgeting, and investing wisely.
You can not just sit back and hope things will magically fall into place.
You must take consistent, aligned action toward your goals and watch how the world responds.
BECOMING THE PERSON WHO CAN MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT
Think about it. If you want a successful career, you need to become someone who takes initiative, works hard, and keeps learning.
If you want fulfilling relationships, you must become someone who values themselves, communicates openly, and respects boundaries.
You attract what you are, not what you wish for!
The more you focus on becoming that person, whether by shifting your mindset, taking action, or just growing as an individual, the more you will find that your desires start to flow toward you.
It is not magic; it is alignment!
When you align your mindset, actions, and beliefs with your desires, you will see how easily life can give you what you want.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Remember, life does not give you what you dream about. It gives you what you are ready for.
So, if you want more, do not just wish for it. Become the person who attracts it!
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
How have you experienced this idea in your life?
Have you found that your mindset has shaped your reality?
Share your reflections in the comments, and let’s chat.
Until next time…
Shift who you are, and watch the world shift around you!
Founder of Dare & Be.
Contact: support@dareandbe.com
Wow, Diana, this article really hit home. I’ve heard the phrase “you attract what you are” many times, but the way you broke it down made it click on a much deeper level. The way you explained subconscious beliefs as an invisible filter that shapes our experiences was especially powerful.A couple questions came to mind while reading this. How would you suggest someone start uncovering those deeply rooted beliefs if they’ve never done any mindset work before? And in your experience, is journaling enough to shift those patterns, or is coaching and external support usually needed to really break through?This whole piece had me reflecting on my own journey. When I first started building my brand and pursuing my goals outside of a full-time job, I realized I was still operating from a mindset of scarcity and burnout. I wanted success, but I wasn’t acting like someone who truly believed he deserved it. Once I started working on my internal world, being more intentional, and aligning my actions with who I wanted to become, things slowly started to shift. Not overnight, but definitely in the right direction.I genuinely believe what you wrote here can help so many people. This isn’t just mindset fluff. It’s a real, practical framework for transformation. When you start becoming the version of yourself that’s ready for what you want, you stop chasing and start attracting.Thanks for sharing this. It was exactly what I needed to read today.Shawn
Hi Shawn,
I appreciate your honest and thoughtful response. That is what makes these conversations feel so real.
In your comment, you raised essential questions. To uncover deeply held beliefs, I recommend starting with some gentle self-investigation. Being curious and asking questions can open up surprising insights:
Where might this pattern be coming from?
What do I believe about myself in this area?
What do I tell myself when things don’t go my way?
Journaling is also a powerful starting point because it helps you get your thoughts out of your head onto paper where you can see them.
Writing honestly for 10 minutes daily can help bring to the surface thoughts and patterns that usually go unnoticed in the background.
External support from a coach or therapist can make a big difference when you want someone to hold a safe space for insightful discoveries, especially when those patterns are attached to things from the past that are harder to resolve on your own.
Once again, thank you very much for your feedback.
It’s a powerful reminder that what we attract in life often reflects who we are internally. I’ve noticed that when I shift my mindset and work on letting go of limiting beliefs, my experiences start to change too. The idea that personal transformation starts from within is something I’m learning to embrace more each day. Thank you for the encouragement and insight!
Hi Ricky,
There is so much shift when we start doing the inner work. Letting go of limiting beliefs isn’t always easy, but every little moment of awareness adds up. The fact that you’re already noticing the changes says a lot about how much you’re showing for yourself.
It is a process that doesn’t have to be perfect, only honest.
The more we align who we are on the inside with what we’re looking for, the more life tends to meet us there.
Hi Diana,
I’ve had moments where I felt like I was doing all the right things, but not seeing the desired results. It’s so eye-opening to think that what I attract might be a reflection of my deeper beliefs rather than just my desires.I love the reminder that it’s not about just wishing harder but becoming someone who naturally aligns with what I want. It makes me reflect on the areas where I might be holding myself back without realizing it.Thank you for sharing this perspective. It’s a great reminder to focus on personal growth rather than just external results. Looking forward to applying this in my own life!
Hi Alice,
Thanks for the feedback! I am glad to hear you are applying this perspective. Wishing you all the best as you continue focusing on your growth!
I really resonate with the idea that we attract what we are. It’s a powerful reminder that our mindset and energy play a huge role in the opportunities and people we attract into our lives. In my own experience, I’ve found that when I focus on cultivating a positive and growth-oriented mindset, I tend to see more positive outcomes in both personal and professional aspects. It’s not always easy, but the results are worth it. Have you found any specific practices or habits that help you maintain this mindset consistently?
Hi Jacob,
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your experience.
Over the years, I’ve done a lot of personal work, and honestly, journaling has been a game-changer for me. It helped me catch old beliefs and reframe them before they took over.
Now, as a coach, journaling still helps me reflect on my thoughts, clear my mind, and stay focused. I also meditate daily to reset and stay grounded.
Setting clear intentions every morning gives me direction and helps me take small, aligned actions throughout the day.
It’s an ongoing process, but for me, it’s all about keeping my energy moving in the right direction.